Why We Really Need To Stop Enforcing The Idea That Vegetarians Are Just Vegans In Waiting

Ahhhh.. these bloody debates again.
As a veggie, it’s fair to say that I was *a bit* pissed off when I saw someone on my timeline earlier this week that vegetarian options in restaurants shouldn’t exist cos they should just be vegan instead. Whilst I *kinda* (let’s use this word very loosely) get where they’re coming from, I also absolutely 100% do not. Now, I am not the type of person who thinks that vegans shouldn’t have options either, that’s just not me. In fact, I would advocate that vegans deserve more options on the menu; because they definitely do! BUT, that does not mean that you get to take away our veggie options, nope, nah, not at all.
I’ve been a vegetarian for 4 years, and I can proudly say that I have absolutely no intention of becoming vegan any time soon. I have my own reasons and opinions, and I am respectful of vegans who have theirs, but time and time again I find that I cannot just live a vegetarian life.
I find that vegans try to convert me, try to guilt trip me into giving up cheese, and I just ain’t down for it. And, meat eaters, you’re not so innocent either. I am constantly finding meat eaters saying ‘well why aren’t you a vegan then?’, or trying to convert me back to eating meat. Like, for crying out loud, can we just STOP concerning ourselves so much with what other people eat or don’t eat?!
As someone who has experienced an eating disorder in the past (more on that here), I have chosen to follow the vegetarian lifestyle because I am, personally, not okay with eating meat, but I do not wish to restrict my life too much, because I am not okay with that either. I don’t like meat, so I don’t eat it, and I also avoid gelatine because that doesn’t sit well with me either, but I do enjoy eating cheese, I’ll have the odd milkshake here and there, and I also eat eggs. And that’s okay with me; they are my own decisions.
I mean, why are we not allowed to make our own decisions?
I, personally, do not judge vegans, nor do I judge meat eaters, because their decisions don’t really affect me. And I’d appreciate the same respect back, but us veggies just don’t get it.
And why do people constantly see vegetarianism as a transition phase into becoming vegan? Repeat after me; IT. IS. NOT.
Being vegetarian is a lifestyle choice, just as much as being vegan or eating meat is, and it ought to be respected as one. It is not just a phase or a period of time, it is a LEGIT lifestyle, so stop the bullsh*t.
Why do we have to be on way or the other? Vegan or meat-eating? Why can’t we just make the decision that is best for us and get on with it?
Honestly, it’s so exhausting.
If I want to eat MEAT FREE in a restaurant with CHEESE, why should I not be entitled to my own personal choice? Honestly, this is just madness.
I’ve said it before and I’ve said it again, pushing vegans do not make me want to become a vegan in the slightest. I know that most of the vegan community is lovely and helpful, but the ones that keep pushing their lifestyle onto others really are giving them a bad rep.
I vote that we have equal menu options for meat eaters, pescatarians, vegetarians and vegans alike; we have all made a lifestyle decision based on what we feel is best for us, and we should be allowed to have personally made that decision without being policed by someone else’s lifestyle choices.
H x



  1. Amanda 15th July 2018 / 6:19 PM

    There is no justification for knowingly contributing to the dairy, egg, or honey industries, and as long as people keep making excuses for it, they will keep getting called out on it.

    • lifethroughtsg
      15th July 2018 / 6:37 PM

      I believe in making my own decisions and this is one of them that I have a right to make for myself. Thanks for the comment 😊.

      • Amanda 15th July 2018 / 8:39 PM

        There’s just no justification for knowingly making that decision

          • Amanda 15th July 2018 / 8:51 PM

            It’s closed minded to think animal products are unethical? How so ?
            I think your opinion is simple minded, but saying so really adds nothing to the conversation.
            There is no justification for knowingly contributing to animal agriculture, period, and if you disagree then you openly support and promote slavery and unnecessary killing.

          • lifethroughtsg
            15th July 2018 / 8:54 PM

            No, I eat to stay alive, like every other being on the planet. If I cannot or do not want to live a vegan lifestyle, then that’s my choice. Please respectfully take your horrendous and closed minded opinions elsewhere. Thanks.

          • Amanda 15th July 2018 / 8:57 PM

            There is nothing you need to stay alive that you cant get in abundance on a vegan diet.
            Raping children is my choice, does that make it an acceptable choice ?
            No, because choosing to contribute to unnecessary suffering and death is not a personal choice, it is an unethical, selfish choice.

          • lifethroughtsg
            15th July 2018 / 9:15 PM

            What a disgusting comparison. Please remove yourself from MY blog.

          • Amanda 15th July 2018 / 9:19 PM

            How ? Dairy cows are forcibly impregnated regularly to produce the milk and cheese you don’t need but still demand

          • lifethroughtsg
            15th July 2018 / 11:26 PM

            I’ve literally talked about EDs etc in this post and the struggle. I haven’t been disrespectful towards your lifestyle choice so you don’t have the right to be disrespectful towards mine.

          • Amanda 16th July 2018 / 12:10 AM

            I know I’m being bitchy about it but truly if you are fully aware of the inherent injustice and cruelty of animal agriculture (which I’m not sure you are) then you should have the honesty to acknowledge there is no fair or valid reason or justification for still contributing to animal agriculture industries.
            You are not the victim when it comes to this conversation, the animals are the victims.
            And technically, since I’m an American, I do have the right to be disrespectful to your lifestyle in my discourse.

  2. sunshinesarahxo 17th July 2018 / 10:53 PM

    Yes yes and yes again!!! I chose to be pescatarian for a reason have tried veganism twice but it just isn’t for me!! Why are there people out there who want to make me feel like even more of a failure than I already am?! Like i gave up bacon for you please leave me to my cheeseboard!! Lol!
    I also don’t eat dairy or eggs anymore….again my choice but it’s also not an avenue towards veganism!! Ugh..
    Thanks for the post babe xxxx

    • lifethroughtsg
      17th July 2018 / 10:55 PM

      Thanks for the comment lovely!! I just think people need to mind their own business a bit and let others get on with it!! At the end of the day, we’re all different xxxx

  3. Lisa 21st July 2018 / 4:09 AM

    Good post! I agree that you have to do what is right for you. I am currently pescatarian and limit dairy and eggs when I can.

  4. lastminutestuff 31st July 2018 / 6:25 PM

    Vegetarian and “vegan” are completely different things … The options are faaaar less on the other side lol

    • lifethroughtsg
      31st July 2018 / 7:21 PM

      Yeah that’s my point. Vegans deserve more options but vegetarian options are still valid and should still be an option

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