TW: weight loss/dieting
Something that I’ve heard time and time again whilst wedding planning (and we’ve been officially planning for less than a year) is
You’ll want to lose a bit of weight before your wedding
And I’ve been told this by an array of people. People who are close to me, random people who think they have the right to have an opinion, and even people that I’ve spoken to about dresses at wedding fairs.
There seems to be some weird misconception that in order to ‘look your best’ for your wedding day, you have to go on a diet or constantly be at the gym. I mean, there’s tops on sale in the highstreet with sayings on like ‘gotta squat before I tie the knot’. Horrible, right?
I’ll not go into how people seem to think that losing weight = looking good in this post, because we would be here until tomorrow and I value my sleep too much for that, but maybe I will write on this at a separate time.
So, first thing’s first, let me just say this:
You don’t have to lose weight for your wedding
There’s no requirement. If you do want to, that’s completely fine. But, if you don’t want to, then that is ok too.
See, it is still your personal choice. When your fiancé (whomever they may be) decided to put a ring on it, they did so because they love you, and that means as you already are. They won’t be expecting you to lose weight before the wedding, because, well, why would they? Would you expect that of them? Of course not!
Losing weight and looking your best have no correlation; you will look your best on your wedding day no matter what because you will (hopefully) be happy that you are marrying the person whom you love, and that will shine through.
But, I completely understand that the sheer peer pressure of the shitty ‘don’t you wanna lose weight before you wed’ comments can really get you down. I’ll be honest, I’m nowhere near my wedding day and they are already getting to me a lot.
Frankly, it’s rude.
If you wouldn’t tell someone to lose weight at any other point in their lives, an engagement ring or them making wedding plans does NOT give you the right to do so either.
Also, and I am saying this as carefully as possible, most of this pressure to lose weight seems to be on the bride, and, again, that is really shitty. I, personally, have cried myself to sleep (already) over people carelessly saying things like this to me, because this pressure is just not okay.
As if planning a wedding wasn’t already stressful enough, this added pressure is just, well, too much.
So, I can say right now in this post, I have no intention of losing weight before my wedding, and I am happy with this decision. I know that my love for Zack will be what shines through on the day, and because of that I am not going to worry how I look.
And, if you’re feeling unnecessary pressure to lose weight for your wedding day, just know that you do not have to. It is not required, and I am sure that you will look incredible no matter what.
And, if you are reading this and you’ve ever said something that I’ve mentioned in this post, maybe this will make you think twice next time.
I also took to twitter to ask for your thoughts on the pressure to lose weight for your wedding day, and here’s what you said:
It’s daft, your fiancé proposed to you because he/she loves you just the way you are. Many people seem to have an unhealthy expectation of women to lose weight before their wedding, even if they don’t need or want to.
— 🍂 Autumn’s Mummy 🍂 (@Autumns_Mummy) 23 March 2018
So annoying seeing those ‘sweating for the wedding’ tops 🙄
— Chloe Metzger (@chloemetzger) 23 March 2018
It’s garbage. Planning a wedding is stressful enough, it’s unhealthy to put even MORE stress on yourself to lose weight!
— Valery Brennan💀 (@ValeryBrennan) 23 March 2018
I’ve definitely felt the pressure! I think it’s more from how we believe we should look compared to brides in magazines, online etc rather than what our fiancés think. It’s quite sad really!
— Kayleigh 🤨 (@_kayleighsays) 22 March 2018
Call Me Amy shares her thoughts and experience in this post!
What are your thoughts? I’d love to know in the comments!