The Wedding Diaries: Finding a Venue!

Hello and welcome to a BRAND NEW series!
So, as many of you may know, I am currently planning a wedding. Although we aren’t planning on marrying until 2020, we recently spent a few days having a look around possible venues, so it seemed appropriate to start my diary here!
We’re at the stage where we’ve written our guest list, and decided the city where we will marry. We’ve got a guest list of 75, with these 75 people spending the whole day with us! As we wanted to do a destination wedding, but in the UK, we have chosen bath. However, as this is almost 4 hours from our home, it seems unfair to invite people to just the night time, so we are inviting all 75 guests to the whole day!  As far as we’ve been told, 75 is a little more than the norm for day guests, but it is less than the norm for night guests so it all evens out!
As I said, we’ve settled on the city of Bath for our destination. We absolutely loved this city on our visit, as it’s so beautiful, but it’s also somewhere completely different where most of our guests will never have been before!
In terms of the venues, we viewed 3 reception venues and 1 ceremony venue.
Before seeing the ceremony venue, we were already pretty much sold as it’s basically everything we wanted, a little different and unique yet still beautiful and definitely us! But, when we were actually in there, we both had this giddy feeling and we were SO excited after our viewing! I don’t want to reveal the venue just yet as we haven’t got it secured, but let’s just say it’s very 1930s!
For the reception venues, we actually fell in love with the first one that we saw! It has beautiful high ceilings, and is the perfect amount of light and elegance that we wanted. In fact, whilst we were sat in the venue waiting for someone to show us around, our wedding song came on! We have never heard it actually played on the radio, or in any shop etc before so it seemed too good to be true!
Even though, let’s be honest, our mind was made up after our first venue visit, we decided to visit the other 2 we had appointments for anyway, just to have a look around and give us a little more idea, and to make sure that the one we loved is actually the best option for us!
The second venue wasn’t really what we were looking for. It was in the Cotswolds and would make the perfect venue for a winter wedding, but it didn’t really have the light and airy feel we were after for our May reception. Plus, when we told the events manager that we wanted to get married on a bank holiday weekend, the price sky rocketed from £6,000 to £25,000! Zack nearly dropped through the floor.
To be honest, the second venue left us feeling a little deflated. We were on such a high after the first, but the second fell short and the events manager was quite condescending when speaking with us.
This is something I wanted to touch upon actually. So, currently me and Zack are 19 and we are planning a wedding for 2020, when we will be 22. I know that to many people this may seem young, but we have been together for almost 6 years, so for us it feels like it’s happening at the right time. I am a student, currently, but I work hard to save my money. Zack always says I’m the best person he knows at saving, because I cannot justify spending lots of money wastefully, it’s just not me. Zack also has quite a good job for a 19 year old. Basically, what I am trying to say is that, between us, and with a little voluntary help from my parents, we can afford the wedding. In fact, we could afford it without any contributions from my parents. It annoys me a little bit when we are looking at these places as a few people we have met have been quite condescending. Now, I don’t know if this is because they think we cannot afford to get married at these places, or if it’s because of our age, but, frankly, it is really winding me up. Surely our custom is what they want, no matter our financial situation nor our age? I dont know, apparently not.
Anyway, the third place we went to look at weren’t expecting us. This was a little weird seen as I scheduled all of my appointments weeks in advance (I like to be organised!). Nevertheless, the concierge took it upon himself to show us around, and he was absolutely lovely. The third venue was beautiful, but it didn’t compare to the first for us so our decision was made.
The only issue is, I didn’t realise that so many places would require deposits so soon for a 2020 wedding! Everyone we know told us we were crazy for planning so far in advance, but these venues said that we were definitely planning at the right time! We’ve agreed to pay deposits at the end of September, but our date cannot be held for that long which is a little annoying. Oh well, as we do not have any reason for wanting a specific date, we don’t mind changing it as long as our ceremony and reception venues are both available!
I’ve probably rambled on enough about wedding planning, and you’re probably a little bored. I’ll stop now.
Thanks for reading!
H x



  1. Jessica & James 1st September 2017 / 10:48 AM

    Ahhh so excited for you both and for this series – not where near getting married (yet) but I love a good event, especially a wedding and girl it’s never too early to plan, evidently! Can’t wait to see more of what you have planned and to share!
    Ps – loving the bath destination!!!
    Jessica & James | /

  2. Llinos (@thelilaclinnet) 1st September 2017 / 7:53 PM

    If you’re getting married in Bath, I defiintely think you’re right to be planning and booking in advance like this, I bet the venues are all soooo popular and that dates go quickly! Also I’m sorry to read that you’ve encountered such attitudes. You two sound like a wonderful couple and all that matters is you and your relationship.

  3. wonderfullybookish 1st September 2017 / 8:03 PM

    I’m excited about this series! I have absolutely no plans to get married any time soon but I love reading about other people planning theirs. I can imagine how annoying it must be to be talked down to just because you’re young. My sister and I have bought a car recently and even the insurance people are so condescending!
    Looking forward to reading more about your plans 😀

  4. Abbey Louisa Rose (@abbeylouisarose) 3rd September 2017 / 7:40 PM

    It never seems to be too early to start wedding planning! I’m so excited to find out how your plans will develop! After seeing your snapchat story of your day exploring your venues, it definitely seemed that the first one you visited was the place for you! It’s such a shame that you had condescending comments from some staff members at the places you visited – you’re just as able to get married at 22 as you are at 92, so why be snooty about it?! Grrr, it’s their loss because you can take your business elsewhere! Bath is a wonderful city and I’m sure you’ll have a magical time!
    Abbey 💓

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