I’m going to be honest, this is something that I struggle with a lot. But, it’s been highlighted even more to me since I’ve been blogging.
All too often, I think it’s polite to just say yes. Whether that be to a friend who wants to hang out (even if I don’t feel up to it), a blog opportunity (even if I have a lot on at the moment and will struggle to complete it), or a family member asking to add people to my guest list (if I wanted them to be invited, they would be). I’ll admit it, I’m just rubbish at saying no. But, I’ve come to realise this past year or so, that saying no is a bloody art form, and a life skill that must be acquired in order for me to take control of my own life. So, I’m writing this post with a few points on how saying ‘No’ can actually be the politest thing you can do…
- Saying no doesn’t have to come across rude
If in a professional email, make sure to make it clear that you’re flattered by the opportunity and would consider it in the future. It doesn’t always have to be a definite ‘no’, sometimes it can be a ‘no-for-now’.
- Saying no can protect yourself
Don’t want those guests at your wedding? SAY NO. This doesn’t have to be about who you do and don’t like, but it is about what you can afford, and who you want to be there. Choose the people who will make your day better for you, and not for anyone else (except your fiancé of course!).
- Saying no can bring better outcomes
Sometimes, you have to say no to taking on too much work. But, this isn’t always a bad thing. This ensures you can get all of your current work done to a better standard, so don’t feel bad.
- Saying no is a responsibility
It’s a responsibility that you need to take on for yourself, and no one else. Don’t feel bad for saying no, don’t feel guilt, you have a responsibility to yourself to make sure you’re in a good place mentally, and you should never feel guilty for that.
- Saying no can make you a BETTER YOU
If you take on less work, remind yourself that you are a responsibility, protect yourself and learn to politely decline, you’re automatically a better you! You’re more relaxed, your work is better, and you’re putting yourself first, and that’s the way it should be in order to be a self-actualised person!
So, don’t feel bad for saying no babe. Sometimes it’s needed, and sometimes you gotta put yourself first!