The Art Of Learning When To Say No

I’m going to be honest, this is something that I struggle with a lot. But, it’s been highlighted even more to me since I’ve been blogging.
All too often, I think it’s polite to just say yes. Whether that be to a friend who wants to hang out (even if I don’t feel up to it), a blog opportunity (even if I have a lot on at the moment and will struggle to complete it), or a family member asking to add people to my guest list (if I wanted them to be invited, they would be). I’ll admit it, I’m just rubbish at saying no. But, I’ve come to realise this past year or so, that saying no is a bloody art form, and a life skill that must be acquired in order for me to take control of my own life. So, I’m writing this post with a few points on how saying ‘No’ can actually be the politest thing you can do…

  • Saying no doesn’t have to come across rude

If in a professional email, make sure to make it clear that you’re flattered by the opportunity and would consider it in the future. It doesn’t always have to be a definite ‘no’, sometimes it can be a ‘no-for-now’.

  • Saying no can protect yourself 

Don’t want those guests at your wedding? SAY NO. This doesn’t have to be about who you do and don’t like, but it is about what you can afford, and who you want to be there. Choose the people who will make your day better for you, and not for anyone else (except your fiancé of course!).

  • Saying no can bring better outcomes

Sometimes, you have to say no to taking on too much work. But, this isn’t always a bad thing. This ensures you can get all of your current work done to a better standard, so don’t feel bad.

  • Saying no is a responsibility

It’s a responsibility that you need to take on for yourself, and no one else. Don’t feel bad for saying no, don’t feel guilt, you have a responsibility to yourself to make sure you’re in a good place mentally, and you should never feel guilty for that.

  • Saying no can make you a BETTER YOU

If you take on less work, remind yourself that you are a responsibility, protect yourself and learn to politely decline, you’re automatically a better you! You’re more relaxed, your work is better, and you’re putting yourself first, and that’s the way it should be in order to be a self-actualised person!
So, don’t feel bad for saying no babe. Sometimes it’s needed, and sometimes you gotta put yourself first!
H x

4 thoughts on “The Art Of Learning When To Say No

  1. This post resonates with me so much, Hayley! Especially when it comes to blogger opportunities – this week I had to say no to a great opp because I was worried that I wouldn’t have enough time to put my all into it with my PhD studies starting so soon! I felt so sad and really bad about saying no, but at the end of the day, my time is valuable and I should always be making sure that I have time to look after myself and not run myself ragged trying to keep up with every brand opportunity! I couldn’t agree more about this making me a better version of myself, so thank you for this wonderful reassuring post!
    Abbey 💖

  2. This is a post that I’ve been needing! I’m so bad at saying no because I don’t ever want to come across as rude, but I didn’t know where to start. Not being able to say no has actually gotten me into an unfortunate situation simply because I didn’t want to seem mean or like I was starting something. I’m definitely going to keep the tips in this post in mind for the future!

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