Let’s Talk Modern Day Feminism (And Why I’m Not A Fan)

Ahhh, this is such a touchy subject I hear you say. Yup, it really is. And I’m a little scared. But I’m gonna try and explain myself best I can, so here goes.
If you ask me if I’m a feminist, I will say yes. Of course I am. I am all for equality, and I definitely do not believe that ANYONE should be defined by the gender that they choose to identify with.
But, I’ve gotta admit, I’m a bit embarrassed to admit it sometimes. And this is because I don’t believe in feminism (I do) or even because I think that it’s gone too far (I don’t) , it’s because of the direction that feminism is currently going in.
Away we have moved from the heroic gals throwing themselves in front of horses and burning post boxes for the right to vote, and here we are with twitter ‘feminists’.
And NO. This is not me saying that our feminist job is done, as it definitely isn’t!
If you don’t believe me, just have a look online at the amount of companies that STILL have unequal pay, it’s disgusting. And, this is in our western-world UK- imagine how big the gender pay gap is in some less developed countries!

But, I think that these are the kinds of things, as feminists, that we need to be working on. The things that are going to change the world and the future for our sisters and daughters and granddaughters (and all of those all over the world). The things like the right to control our own bodies and the right to equality; not any of this shit that’s currently going on.
By blowing the tiny little things (such as Meghan Markle’s fashion sense) out of proportion, we’re making ourselves look, well, pathetic.
And now is not a time to look pathetic.
We do not need to give anyone anymore reason to look down on us as a movement. If we believe in equality, then we believe in equality for ALL, not just for some. We need to encourage one another, not bring one another down.
We need people to join the movement and change their own values and beliefs, which is a pretty hard thing to ask anyone to do. But, in order to get there, we need to stop pulling each other down and start supporting each other; and the ’cause’ that we are supposedly fighting for!
This cause is not someone’s dress hem-length, or a kind message on the London Tube; our message has to be more than this.
Because, if these are truly the only things that we are fighting for, then I am not sure that I can call myself a feminist anymore.
So, let’s stop making our (important) cause into a laughing stock, or some sort of weird ‘girl power’/ ‘girlboss’ trend, and let’s start fighting for the important things again.
H x
I also asked you guys on Twitter your thoughts on ‘modern day feminism’- here’s what you had to say!


4 thoughts on “Let’s Talk Modern Day Feminism (And Why I’m Not A Fan)

  1. You know what, I totally agree and I understand what you’re trying to say and we’ll done for sharing it out to the world. It can be such a touchy subject and some people are defo losing the main point of it all!
    Slowly but surely I am taking these on board, I feel I’ve progressed more in doing these things and will continue to do so. Thanks for sharing all of this!
    Jessica & James | /

  2. I couldn’t agree more than we need to concentrate more on the really key issues of feminism, rather than silly, inconsequential things! The examples that you’ve picked out here, the gender pay gap vs. Meghan Markle’s dress sense couldn’t be more true – at the end of the day what a certain celebrity happens to be wearing pales in comparison to key issues such as women’s political and social rights! It’s easy for the “little” things to get blown out of proportion on social media, what you’ve done here by taking a step back to focus on what feminism is REALLY about is so important and something that all of us need to do!
    Abbey xx

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